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Can You Handle the 10 days to Live off Facebook Challenge: The Answers May Surprise You!

How would you spend your time if you knew you only had ten days to live? Would you spend up to 11 hours a day staring at screens and social media or would you get out in the real world and live? Shall we begin?


This is your challenge: spend the next ten days off of Facebook and get out there and live your life. Can you handle ten whole days away from Facebook? What will happen, how will your life change? Why would you want to do this? These are all questions that I asked myself and that hopefully, you are asking yourself right now! The answers will surprise you.  Just imagine what you will discover, do, feel, and accomplish during your ten days? Find out and then post ten pictures (when you get back) to share your discoveries and accomplishments with the world.


Can you handle ten whole days away from Facebook?

Scientific research shows us that social media is in fact, physically addicting.  The first few days are going to be hard due to your addiction to social media.  


What do you have to look forward to, how can your life change?

  • When you get out from behind the screen, you get into life’s real pleasures. The heighten satisfaction and emotional levels from real world experiences far eclipse that of the false virtual world.  

  • Freedom is yours to keep! Free yourself from the misused time and distractions of social media. When you retrain your brain for new habits and routines , they eventually become automatic and then you can reap the rewards of a real life with little, less or no social media.  

  • Better rest! When you are not distracted by social media or the sleep disrupting lights and notifications, you get much more restful and deep sleep.

  • Improved in person, real life relationships.

  • Increased focus, creativity & productivity.

  • Free’s up energy and focus to explore your passions.

  • Enhanced physical activity/ exercise.

  • Improved self-esteem. you


Why would you want to do this?

  • Social media use is associated with a number of psychological problems, including anxiety, depression, loneliness, attention deficit, hyperactivity disorder, and addiction.

  • Social media skews our perceptions and emotions. Researchers have found that consuming large amounts of information about other people can elicit feelings of envy. From the American Journal of Psychiatry: “That is, people who regularly use Facebook are more likely to agree that others have better lives than them and that life is unfair, whereas those who have a more active offline social life appear to have a more balanced view of other people’s lives.

  • Social media use can sabotage our romantic relationships. Researchers found a link between compulsive Facebook use and relationship dissatisfaction due to jealousy and surveillance behaviors.

  • Social media use leads to “always being on”. Not having down time to ground and connect.

  • There is a growing scientific evidence base to suggest excessive SNS use may lead to symptoms traditionally associated with substance-related addictions.

  • Excessive social media use results in difficulty in maintaining face to face relationships such as personal & professional  which leads to frustration and depression which sends the person back to social media to find connection & expression, furthering the viscous cycle.

  • Social media use enhances FOMO (fear of missing out): FOMO is “a pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent”.

  • Research shows a strong connection between frequent use of social media and low self-esteem.


Want to see the research and science behind these facts? Check out  and the list of related scientific articles (scroll down in the linked article) to read for yourself.

How to do the ten days off Facebook Challenge.

  1. Make an announcement on Facebook that you are taking the 10 day challenge- use hashtag #10daystolivechallenge

  2. Remove Facebook from your mobile device, tablet and laptop to avoid temptation.

  3. Take a picture each day of what you are doing: more productivity? Hanging out with friends, reading a great book, treating yourself to some R&R- whatever- document that stuff! Optional: Journaling is a great path to self-discovery! journal each day to track your thoughts, emotions and feelings. This is a great way to ground yourself in the ahem… real world.

  4. When you get back on, start with a plan (based on what you discovered during your hiatus) of when and how you will use Facebook & other social media.

  5. Post pictures of what you did, accomplished and discovered during your ten day break- use hashtag #10daystolivechallenge


Are you addicted to social media?

According to Dr. Mark Griffiths, PHD. The answers to these six simple questions can tell you more about your level of addiction (from original article on Psychology Today) :

If you want to check whether you may be at risk of developing an addiction to social media, ask yourselves these six simple questions:

Do you spend a lot of time thinking about social media or planning to use social media?
Do you feel urges to use social media more and more?
Do you use social media to forget about personal problems?
Do you often try to reduce your use of social media without success?
Do you become restless or troubled if you are unable to use social media?
Do you use social media so much that it has had a negative impact on your job or studies?

If the answer to all six of these questions is “yes,” then you may have or be developing an addiction to using social media.




How to Identify and Overcome Little Fears and Why It Matters


I recently joined a synchronized swimming troop. Every Thursday at 5:30 I ruin about twenty minutes of my life trying to talk myself out of going and then I go anyway. I always leave the pool feeling like a million dollars so I began to wonder why I was self-sabotaging this amazing experience. It didn’t take long to realize there were a bunch of little fears working their magic like little joy parasites. I rolled my eyes and sighed at the realization, “oh my gosh, Oh my goodness- ok, I got this.”

What am I afraid of?

What am I afraid of here? Well rejection for one and failure for another. I’m walking into an established tight knit group where I am new and don’t know anyone. I’m literally afraid of treading water all by myself, not participating in locker room banter. Not being picked for a formation team.  On top of that I have not learned a new physical skill in forever. I’m afraid of not being able to do the lifts, master the form, flow beautifully through fluid formations.

When I made my excuses every Thursday, I did not realize these were at play. These were subconscious fears that I realized only upon closer inspection were bubbling beneath the surface and showing up as “its too cold today” and “I should probably stay home and mend all of my torn sweaters.”  

Moving beyond fear.

Then I was able to put my fears in the crosshairs. Just by recognizing them, individually, giving them names and bringing them to the light I could pick them off one by one. How can I get to know these ladies better? I can listen, I can ask questions, I can learn about them. I can be patient for crying out loud, that is how relationships are formed. Sticking that complex formation on my first try? Yeah right! How has my adult mind been duped into thinking this is how anything works? Hello? Revel in the progress! I’ll start by not sinking it can only get better from there.

So needless to say at the first inkling of what I now know is a fear response I  play the old west high noon dual showdown whistle in my head and take my position. Instead of feeding it at all, I replay in my mind how great it felt to master sculling for almost an entire width of the pool. How much fun it was to view the formations from under water and gain a better understanding of their inner workings. Small victories right! It seems like small stuff, but it’s all small stuff and yet it’s critical. Here’s why…

Developing new ways of thinking.

At its core, this practice is all about developing new neural pathways for your brain to call upon. Left unchecked, little fears become big fears and eventually habits of the mind. You literally are creating pathways in your brain when you experience thoughts and emotions. Have that same fear over and over again, feed into it, let it take hold and it’s created one and only one well-worn thought path in your brain. So now you’re only available thought pattern leads to fear. Something happens and the fear brain kicks in and says “that’s ok, I got this, I know the way” and off it goes. When you create a new thought pattern you create more alternative pathways for your brain to explore as responses and then you can break the pattern of fear based thinking. As you identify and then move beyond one small fear after another you build upon your collection of positive possibility pathways in your brain. When you do this, new pathways and possibilities are opened up and who doesn’t love new possibilities!

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