As Irish poet John O’Donohue shares:
“When love awakens in your life, in the night of your heart, it is like the dawn breaking within you. Where before there was anonymity, now there is intimacy; where before there was fear, now there is courage; where before in your life there was awkwardness, now there is a rhythm of grace and gracefulness; where before you used to be jagged, now you are elegant and in rhythm with your self. When love awakens in your life, it is like a rebirth, a new beginning.”
Letting love in sounds great but can be easier said than done if this is a new life space for you. It truly is worth the effort though. When it comes to pattern interrupting one of the best habits to break is the one of having walls, obstacles and distractions from true unconditional love. It happens little by little. You forgive, you accept, you get lost in the moment one moment at a time and before you know it love has begun to take hold of and guide your life. The fears and frustrations wrapped up in those lower vibrating emotions begin to slip away and a new reality and life emerges. Yes! It’s that powerful!
Evolution in lifehappens through our own experiences so I offer three simple statements that can help guide you through your own evolutionary experiences to find what meaning and understanding they hold for you in how you live. Tuck these away in the back of your mind and pull them out daily and then reflect on how using them has changed your life experiences.
1. “No thanks!” When conversations, self talk or life events turn negative simply say “no thanks”. Depending on the person you may be able to say this out loud and open up a dialog about rejecting negativity in life and leaning toward positivity and love. All things and conversations can be accomplished through either path and it is simply a choice as to which path to take. So should you quietly say “no thanks” in your mind then simply turn your own actions and dialog to a love based positive approach and see how situations and conversation change and evolve. Do this consistently and you will set a new standard for yourself. You will also see that others soon rise (or fall) to whatever personal standard you embody.
2. “I’m sorry I love you, please forgive me.” This comes in handy when you find yourself engaging in negative thoughts or even self-thoughts. That ruminating about negative potential outcomes that may never even come to pass. That wallowing in and refusing to let go of past hurts, shortcomings, faults or missteps. We all misstep from time to time, letting it go is the best gift you can give yourself or others as you then create that creation space to begin living and loving in the higher vibrating emotions of love. So when you find yourself stepping into a negative headspace about yourself or others simply say to yourself “I’m sorry, I love you, please forgive me.” This will indicate to your brain that this thinking stops now and you will soon retrain your brain to bypass the negative ruminating and move on to the more positive creations space emotions.
3. “insert name here- I love you.” Love begins with self-love! As I stated above, people will rise or fall to whatever expectation you hold. Simply reminding yourself each day (aloud if you can or in your head if you must) that you love yourself enables you to build a strong foundation of self-love from which all other experiences in life spring!
Insert these three terms into your daily head-space routine and again, take note and reflect upon how it changes your experiences in life and effects your reality. Soon you will find life shifting and love flowing more freely in your life. Success breeds success so by having your own experiences you will take ownership of the role that love plays in your existence and seek to expand it further and deeper. There are no limits to love and therefor no limits to what is possible in a life lived through love.