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How to Deal with Energy Vampires & Raise Your Own Vibration, Using a Simple 3-step NLP Technique

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Most everyone knows the differences between desperately struggling to stay hopeful around energy vampires and that glorious feeling of being uplifted when you are surrounded by loving, nurturing people. In both cases there is a cause and effect cycle that once understood, can either be broken or reinforced depending on if you want to feel peaceful & loving or angry & frustrated. Whichever we choose, determines whether our own vibration goes up or down. The trick is in understanding how emotional energy affects us and learning how to deal with energy vampires.

We naturally know that we want to keep our own vibrations high, it just feels good! Our own vibrational energy pattern also contributes to what we are attracting through the law of attraction so of course, we want to keep our energy vibrating in a high place too. The good news is that everything begins with you! It’s extremely helpful to understand our own energetic vibrational patterns. How are they formed and how do they affect our lives? How do they empower us to have more creative control and input into our own manifesting process and day to day peace and happiness? How does this understanding help us to deal with people that we perceive as energy vampires?

Your vibrational energy patterns are one part of a dynamic whole. The vibrational energy pattern that we choose to engage with plays an important role in our overall happiness, our ability to achieve, move forward, have healthy relationships and the ability to have a sense of peace in all of life’s dynamic experiences. It’s vital that we keep our own emotional energy levels high and in check! Check out this video to learn more about how your emotions are creating your own vibrational energy patterns.

If you have or have ever had an energy vampire draining and effecting your own emotional energy, I have great news for you. There is no such thing as an energy vampire. I know, everyone loves that catch phrase “energy vampire” and I’ve used it myself but the fact of the matter is that there is no such thing.

The truth about the energy vampire myth:

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1.       Everyone is doing their best for wherever they are right now. Including you and me. What we may perceive as someone’s negative energy, is really just their own struggle (with what we may or may not ever know) to free themselves of that negative energy state and move on up the emotional/vibrational scale to love and acceptance. Their goal is not to take your energy but simply to raise their own- help a brother out.

2.       More often than not, none of the low vibrational fear based energy/anger/emotion  that is being projected toward you has anything to do with you. Think about their perspective, experiences, hopes and fears and what other things might be playing into the situation and fueling their low vibrating energy.

3.       Oh wait, it might actually be you. We all do things from time to time that invite low energy right back to ourselves without even realizing it or taking responsibility for it. Our own emotions are boomerangs- we get back what we put out.

4.       We get to choose whether or not to internalize and participate in the emotions and corresponding negative energy that is going on around us. Yeah, I know, this is the hard part but keep reading- I got you.

Not being able to make someone else out to be the big bad energy vampire and the source of our own low energy and negative emotions is the best news ever! It means that we each have, within us, the complete and total ability to maintain the emotional/vibrational energy levels (and awesome feelings & experiences that go along with them) that we want. Sure, life and the people in it, can present us with challenges as well as unique and sometimes less than comfortable, opportunities to grow at times. But it’s through those challenges that we grow, evolve and become more and more self-actualized. 

O.W.N. it! Here is a 3-step, NLP based process to help you navigate low energy experiences (i.e. energy vampires… also known as human beings, just doing their best, like we all are)

O- Ownership- Ask yourself, “do I want to take ownership” of the negative emotions and energy that is being projected here? Once we choose to take ownership, that emotion will drive the experience moving forward. “hurt people hurt people”. For example, my child might lash out in anger and frustration. I still need to work through the situation but choose to do so without also taking ownership of those feelings and joining in on the emotionally fueled and directed roller coaster. We do not have to take ownership of and join in on feelings, conversations, actions, life choices etc. To each his own, we just don’t.  Ownership of someone else’s emotions is your choice. We have two choices here. One is to not accept the low emotions and offer love, compassion, and acceptance. I know when I’m being an A-hole this changes my tune real fast and I’ve seen this happen many times on the giving side as well. Also, we can choose to compassionately disengage, at which point the other person will move on. Having thrown the old tug of war rope and received no tension in return, they will move on.

W- Why? – ask yourself “why is this person feeling this way and why am I feeling the response that I am feeling?”. Both often have little to do with the situation at hand. We all bring to the table, life experiences and context that contributes to how we see and react to things. Being able to see the perspective of both people more clearly creates some wiggle room for you both to be a little more human and the ability to allow compassion to fill the space between you where anger once was.  

N – Need- ask yourself “do I need to feel this emotion”. Spoiler alert- the answer might be yes! If you think about the scale of emotions, the objective is always to move up and not down the scale, raising our own vibrations.  Lower emotions are our own inner guidance system, alerting & prompting us to move further along up the scale. For example, anger might lead us to pride which could lead to courage and taking a needed action and then the self-esteem that goes along with that and so on, helping us to gain skills and insight that we get to keep forever. (thank you very much energy vampire!).


See how I brought this all home here? Now we are grateful to the energy vampire for presenting us with an opportunity to continue to move up the emotional scale, become all self-actualized, raise our own vibration and stuff. And then (if you watched the video!) you know what you will attract more of into your life.  O.W.N. it.

Always Love,




Gratitude, There Are A Thousand Ways to Kneel & Kiss the Ground

I woke up with this quote in my mind this morning :-)

I woke up with this quote in my mind this morning :-)

I think about this quote a lot. Gratitude comes to mind but that’s low hanging fruit. Its easy to be grateful for all of the good things. I think this begs more creativity, more putting into action and engaging with emotion. For me, it inspires seeking and sharing love & gratitude in the mundane or cold, dark places. To choose to listen with a forgiving and compassionate heart when someone is angry. To choose to see how a fire that may have burned you is just pushing you to re-imagine yourself and grow into someone new, better. To choose to quiet all of the chatter in your heart and mind for long enough to look around and realize “all of this is really quite amazing and I am a part of it”. Indeed, there are at least a thousand ways to kneel and kiss the ground in any given day and one good reason to do it. Resonance. In choosing to do so It raises the vibration of both ourselves and those around us.

We don’t manifest or attract what we want in life, but what we feel. How we feel is very much a matter of choice and how we choose to look at the everyday occurrences in our lives. I see this beautiful quote from Rumi as a reminder of that choice. Why do we not do this naturally? Why does it seem so much easier to focus on (and then attract) the negative aspects of things? Quite simply, we have been taught and conditioned to see and experience the world in this way. And so we get caught in this negative cycle of seeing, feeling and attracting negativity into our lives.

The way out is the same as the way in! We can just as easily re-train our brains to enable and empower us to vibrate at the higher love based frequencies using simple NLP techniques. Learn more about using NLP to master the law of attraction.



Law of Attraction Memes For You

Keeping yourself in  a good head-space is vital to maintaining your forward momentum. Here is a round up of some of my favorite Law of Attraction quotes to surround yourself with an share with your friends and family. 



3 Easy Ways to Enhance Your Law of Attraction with Gratitude

I’m currently creating a mini course on what I consider to be the actual secret to the law of attraction. It’s fascinating, I can’t wait to share it with you! For now though let’s dip our toes into the water by focusing on gratitude. When most people think of the law of attraction, their thoughts turn toward the question of  what good things  they can attract to themselves and how. If you have taken my courses Create a Law of Attraction Vision Board That Manifests Your Dreams, then you already know the pitfalls of this approach.

The basic premise of the law of attraction is that like energy attracts like energy. So we attract into our lives the people, circumstances, events and so on that most resonate with our deepest subconscious beliefs.  When your focus is on what you don’t have you look to the law of attraction to help fill the void.  So really your focus (and dominant underlying belief) is based on  mindset of  lack. A lifetime of conditioning to think this way has made it second nature for most people. However, it’s super easy to shift your thinking and your mindset to one of abundance by focusing on gratitude. 

Here are 3 Easy ways to engage the power of gratitude in your daily life

Daily Law of Attraction Guided Audio

Daily Law of Attraction Guided Audio

1.       Share gratitude on the hour. How many times a day do you complain? Think about even the smallest comments and complaints that you make all throughout the day. Again this is second nature to us, we learn by being immersed in a society where everyone is doing it. To turn that around and shift your mindset, thoughts and conversational habits to one of gratitude it just takes a little conscious effort and then it soon becomes automatic of subconscious.   To do that, stop once during each and every hour that you are awake and share gratitude. Notice something (however small) that you are grateful for and share it with someone. Perhaps you will reach out thank someone for something they have said or done, in person or via email, text etc.). Or maybe you will just let someone know about something or someone in your life that you are grateful for (which also teaches them by example to be more grateful).

2.       Write a daily gratitude list. Toward the end of each day make a quick list o a half dozen or so things that you are grateful for from your day. This has several benefits, it helps you to build your neural network of positivity in two ways. First, it forces you to look deeper at even the smallest of things to be grateful for which enhances your positive mindset. The process of writing (rather than just thinking or saying) also creates a more dynamic and well anchored network of positivity as well.

3.       Breathe in Thank You breathes.  Stop frequently to really notice all that there is  around you to be grateful for. Take in a deep breath and just say in your mind “thank You” as you notice something around you that you are grateful for. That might be the warm sunshine on your shoulders, the  wonderful smell from a nearby bakery wafting through the air, the smile on your child’s face as they lean over to lace up their shoes, the delicious toasted everything bagel you are about to enjoy, the extra 5 minutes in your hot shower.. the list goes on and on!


A short daily practice of gratitude, visualization and meditation does wonders for updating your mindset and activating the law of attraction in a positive way.   It’s super powerful, fun, uplifting, and requires practically no effort at all. My mini course, Create a Law of Attraction Mindset includes a 15 minute guided audio program that walks you through this series each day in just 15 minutes!